Many of the potential reasons for the patterns in our lives were brought into the light, into your awareness in Part 1. (So, if you didn’t find your reason in part one, please keep reading.) This is the first step to healing these patterns; being conscious of the repetitive events, situations or types of people in your life that are undesirable or unpleasant. 
Before we can get to the healing though, let’s expose some more reasons for repeating patterns.
Another Sacred Contact Answer from Louise Hay
In You Can Heal Your Life, Ms. Hay reveals patterns in a specific area of our lives.
Family Patterns
Under the heading of I Believe That We Choose Our Parents, She states:
“…we look around for the particular set of parents who will mirror the pattern we are bringing in to work on in this lifetime.” “…we chose them because they were perfect for what we wanted to work on overcoming.”
This can also be applied to any intense non-familial relationship. These are people you have soul contracts, just as you do with your family.
Relationships, on any level, are the source of much of this questioning. Rejections, betrayal, abandonment, abuse, and neglect are the patterns most often questioned. In general, our subconscious is at work creating these patterns, either to protect us or to do something to help us learn, grow and/or heal.
More Psychological Answers
- Selective Attention: also known as obsession, desperation, a single-minded pursuit, or goal-driven. (This is tied to the psychological imperative.)
This is probably the psychological answer that is most available to consciousness. (#6 and 7 of the psychological answers from part one are also conscious but somewhat less.)
Beliefs, ego wants or unevolved needs (unmet need from childhood) may be guiding this.
Perception is profoundly effected: what you hear and how you hear and interpret (or misinterpret) the use of language, vocal tone, emphasis, and body language. This creates fear of rejection, disappointment and/or not getting what you want. It creates misunderstanding, wrong interpretations and can cause you to remember things differently than they really happened.
10. Louise also gives us one explanation for the psychological imperative:
“We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience. Well, I believe you created those experiences over and over because they mirrored something you believed about yourself.” (Part One: #3 of Psychological Answers)
- A Sense of Entitlement, which is the same as having unrealistic expectations (Part One #6)
- You Are Not In The Present
If you are not present you are distracted, being self-conscious, afraid, preoccupied, worried, etc. If you are not present then you are not paying attention and thus you can miss a lot of what is going on beyond mere words.
Another Mental Answer
- We All Have A Multiple Personality Disorder!
You may have one or more unhealthy personalities running your thoughts, your decisions, your mouth, and your life.
A Perception/Communication Answer
Misinterpreting Communication: This problem is becoming greater and greater as we are all using different modes of communication with differing levels of clarity, humor and sarcasm. We also have different mindsets and preoccupations at any given moment. For these reasons, we often misinterpret situations, conversations and brief exchanges.
- We misinterpret facial expressions, body language, vocal tone and emphasis. For example:
- Some people have difficulty with sarcasm: some with interpreting and some with execution.
- “… just kidding.” Are they or aren’t they?
- People give out mixed signals.
- We all do too much interrupting so often people don’t get to finish; the conversation in incomplete and how can you know what’s going on if you only heard part of the conversation.
Since many comedic moments in real life and entertainment come from some error in perception or a misinterpretation, it’s obviously common but not really funny when it’s you. It seems like in most cases, if one doesn’t ask for clarifications, one does not interpret the situation clearly because assumptions are being used for interpretation.
A Cognitive Answer
Your Definitions May Be Wrong.
If you only received negative attention or if you were abused, your definitions of love and success were learned from poor role-models, so you may be seeking to achieve something totally different from what you think you are seeking.
If your definitions were derived from other people, then again, they may be wrong because what you learned were someone else’s interpretation, opinion or judgment.
Please check out the next article, to find out how to start Healing Patterns.
May you perceive and receive all your blessings.
With Much Love,
Rev. Michele
Copyright © 2013 Indigo Sky, LLC; All Rights Reserved
Why Does This Keep Happening To Me? Continued
Many of the potential reasons for the patterns in our lives were brought into the light, into your awareness in Part 1. (So, if you didn’t find your reason in part one, please keep reading.) This is the first step to healing these patterns; being conscious of the repetitive events, situations or types of people in your life that are undesirable or unpleasant.
Before we can get to the healing though, let’s expose some more reasons for repeating patterns.
Another Sacred Contact Answer from Louise Hay
In {u can heal your life}, Ms. Hay reveals patterns in a specific area of our lives.
Family Patterns
Under the heading of I Believe That We Choose Our Parents, She states:
“…we look around for the particular set of parents who will mirror the pattern we are bringing in to work on in this lifetime.” “…we chose them because they were perfect for what we wanted to work on overcoming.”
This can also be applied to any intense non-familial relationship. These are people you have soul contracts, just as you do with your family.
Relationships, on any level, are the source of much of this questioning. Rejections, betrayal, abandonment, abuse, and neglect are the patterns most often questioned. In general, our subconscious is at work creating these patterns, either to protect us or to do something to help us learn, grow and/or heal.
More Psychological Answers
- Selective Attention: also known as obsession, desperation, a single-minded pursuit, or goal-driven. {This is tied to the psychological imperative]
This is probably the psychological answer that is most available to consciousness. (#6 and 7 of the psychological answers from part one are also conscious but somewhat less.)
Beliefs, ego wants or unevolved needs (unmet need from childhood) may be guiding this.
Perception is profoundly effected: what you hear and how you hear and interpret (or misinterpret) the use of language, vocal tone, emphasis, and body language. This creates fear of rejection, disappointment and/or not getting what you want. It creates misunderstanding, wrong interpretations and can cause you to remember things differently than they really happened.
10. Louise also gives us one explanation for the psychological imperative:
“We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience. Well, I believe you created those experiences over and over because they mirrored something you believed about yourself.” (Part One: #3 of Psychological Answers)
- A Sense of Entitlement, which is the same as having unrealistic expectations (Part One #6)
- You Are Not In The Present
If you are not present you are distracted, being self-conscious, afraid, preoccupied, worried, etc. If you are not present then you are not paying attention and thus you can miss a lot of what is going on beyond mere words.
Another Mental Answer
- We All Have A Multiple Personality Disorder!
You may have one or more unhealthy personalities running your thoughts, your decisions, your mouth, and your life.
A Perception/Communication Answer
Misinterpreting Communication: This problem is becoming greater and greater as we are all using different modes of communication with differing levels of clarity, humor and sarcasm. We also have different mindsets and preoccupations at any given moment. For these reasons, we often misinterpret situations, conversations and brief exchanges.
- We misinterpret facial expressions, body language, vocal tone and emphasis. For example:
- Some people have difficulty with sarcasm: some with interpreting and some with execution.
- “… just kidding.” Are they or aren’t they?
- People give out mixed signals.
- We all do too much interrupting so often people don’t get to finish; the conversation in incomplete and how can you know what’s going on if you only heard part of the conversation.
Since many comedic moments in real life and entertainment come from some error in perception or a misinterpretation, it’s obviously common but not really funny when it’s you. It seems like in most cases, if one doesn’t ask for clarifications, one does not interpret the situation clearly because assumptions are being used for interpretation.
A Cognitive Answer
Your Definitions May Be Wrong.
If you only received negative attention or if you were abused, your definitions of love and success were learned from poor role-models, so you may be seeking to achieve something totally different from what you think you are seeking.
If your definitions were derived from other people, then again, they may be wrong because what you learned were someone else’s interpretation, opinion or judgment.
Please check out the next article, to find out how to start Healing Patterns.
May you perceive and receive all your blessings.
With Much Love,
Rev. Michele
Copyright © 2013 Indigo Sky, LLC; All Rights Reserved
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