14 Ways to Increase Your Belief in Yourself: Improving Confidence and Motivation
I want to thank Erin Falconer for publishing my article on her amazing site.
PicktheBrain.com posted my article as 10 Ways to Start Believing in Yourself Right Now!
So, here is the rest of it with, of course, the additions that “came to me” after it was submitted.
- Take Risks, Face Your Fears
Fear is one of the greatest roadblocks to fulfilling ones potential. Identifying, facing and overcoming your fears will pave the way to a joyous and productive life. [If you have phobias, debilitating fears, seek professional help. You can overcome this too.]
Some fears are hold-overs from a past life trauma, especially phobias and debilitating fears. If you have any of these, it is worth finding out with a past-life regression.
Some fears are challenges from your higher self; lessons to prove you are capable of growth.
Some are leftover from childhood and may be creating difficulties as well as limiting beliefs. These are meant to be overcome. Take small steps and build up to facing it directly. You won’t regret it. It will give you a new sense of freedom.
By overcoming fear, you will create a great sense of accomplishment that will add to your ability to believe in yourself.
- Separate You from Your Body and Appearance
Self-image and body-image are not the same. You looks are not who and what you are. Your physical body is your vessel for your soul and spirit, to allow your human existence.
You are your soul; your personality, your values, your gifts, your talents. You are your spirit; a spark of the Divine and connected to all that is. This is your essence and something that can never be taken away from you.
This may not be a popular perception but your spirit may have chosen to incarnate in a less attractive package so it could focus on its lessons and tasks, and not be distracted by intimate relationships.
- Identify Your Beliefs About Yourself
Make a list of all the criticisms and self-abusive thoughts you have regularly. These are your limiting beliefs about yourself.
Identify where they came from. In most cases, they are other people’s words. Challenge the validity of the negative and limiting beliefs you have about yourself. Are they facts or opinions? Where or who did they come from? Are those sources of valuable opinions?
Most of our beliefs were created in childhood; when we were susceptible to what other people said and had such a small world view that we believed what we were told, what we heard and that everything was our fault. In addition, many of us lived through traumas and painful experiences that left us with feeling of shame, guilt, self-blame, and trust issues. It’s time to release the past through forgiveness.
It’s time to forgive yourself for any perceived wrong you did against yourself or others. It’s time to forgive yourself for anything you were not able to prevent or anyone (including yourself) that you were not able to protect.
Do not let the past impact you present and future. Do not let you past dictate what you believe about yourself. And do not let the past keep you from believing in yourself.
Replace the old, negative and limiting beliefs with beneficial beliefs.
- Have Faith
If you believe in a higher power than you should believe that that source of all that is doesn’t make mistakes and all creations are perfect just as they are. That includes you!
This is an affirmation I use when I am experiencing doubt: I am a Divine expression of the Universe. I am part of the Universal plan. I am loved, protected and guided always and in all ways.
(Add-on to #3) Surround Yourself with People that Support You
If you are actively pursuing your dream, surround yourself with experts in the field. Showing your work to novices may not give you the kind of feedback you require. If their feedback is negative, it may be discouraging, but remember it is not expert advice. Other people’s opinions can be and often are wrong. Don’t rely on friends or family who are not experts.
(Add-on to #6) Take on Challenges
To challenge yourself is to explore your potential and your limitations. It is exploring what you really enjoy and what you don’t.
(Add-on to #7) Keep Learning and Growing
Change it to never stop learning and growing.
If you only learn by experience you are bound to the reality, beliefs and limitations of your surroundings.
If you don’t believe in yourself, you will sabotage your own efforts (subconsciously), either due to the Law of Attraction or the psychological imperative to make our outer world match our inner beliefs.
Believe that you are a valuable and worthy being, loved, guided and protected at all times. You have a unique combination of skills, talents and gifts that no one else has. You have a unique, self-chosen purpose in this lifetime. Believe that you have all the tools you need to make it happen.
May you perceive and receive all your blessings.
With Much Love,
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